The destructive cycle of sexual addiction comes in so many different forms.
These include compulsive use of online pornography, anonymous sex, visiting prostitutes, excessive masturbation, risky or unsafe sex, multiple affairs in person or online, exhibitionism, or voyeurism.
It may feel impossible to connect with your partner (or anyone) intimately.
You may be facing the loss of a job, a marriage, or the threat of arrest. Or your health may be in danger because of the risks you take.
These consequences will get worse as sexual addiction progresses over time.
Unfortunately, asking for help isn’t easy.
It can be embarrassing for any of us to talk about our sexual behaviors, period. And for those struggling with sexual addiction, carrying the burden of these compulsions can feel especially shameful.
In fact, the “double life” most sexual addicts live can be more painful and debilitating than the behavior itself.
But sexual addiction does NOT mean you deserve to live in shame.
It just means you need help and compassion — because like with any addiction, it’s pretty much impossible to recover on your own.
Sexual addiction rarely occurs in a vacuum. It’s often rooted in early attachment relationships in life, different forms of trauma, abandonment, and toxic shame.